Today is father’s day and I want to celebrate all the fathers and give them a high five for stepping up to the plate at all times.
Children watch how you treat their mom, so one of the best things you can do as a father is to love their mom and love her well. Make time to date her, take her on trips and show your kids that she is a bigger priority than they are. Don’t treat her shabbily or look down on her efforts. Present a united front in every situation.
Dad’s should do things with their children even if things that are considered traditionally “feminine” with their daughters.
I’ve been in the store and overheard a dad tell his little girl of about twelve to go by herself to get pads after she asked him to go with her. “Go get them yourself” and he looked mortified she even asked him to go. Like, dude, she clearly looks like she needs help. Help your daughters! They ask you to paint their nails, do it. It might turn out messy but so what?
Also don’t be afraid to teach your daughters “manly” things. You are building something and she asks what you’re doing? Tell her. Teach her how to use that drill and do it right. She likes auto shop? Take her out to the garage. Teach her how to do a basic oil change, how to change a tire. Teach her how to do things for herself and that she is fully capable of doing it. Don’t divide your kids into gender roles, see them as people.
Teach them how to be accountable in their every actions. Apportion blame with love where necessary. Give your kids a sense of self worth. Show them how to have a good relationship with the opposite sex. Make memories with them. Fill up your child’s emotional journal with memories of being with Dad. Teach them to do things for themselves. It might be difficult and time consuming but it’s worth it in the long run. Teach them how to wash their own clothes, dishes, clean house, do all house chores.
“A father’s job is to love his children in the way they need to be loved”